By: Krystle Crossman
When it comes to talking to your children about s*x there are some very fine lines that you want to be careful not to cross and some things that you should do to make the conversation as smooth as possible. You want them to take you seriously and really take in the information that you are giving them. Dr. Phil has a list of dos and don’ts when it comes to having that conversation with them.
– Don’t compare your child to other children
– Don’t tell the child that what they may do s*xually is “bad” or “funny”
– Don’t project any adult behaviors on an infant
– Don’t criticize them or be judgmental
– Don’t avoid certain questions that they may have
– Don’t shame them because of what they may do
– Don’t violate anyone’s confidence unless there is a child at risk
– Do explain all of the different s*xual choices and action they may have to deal with as well as the feelings that they will feel
– Do stay calm and relaxed while talking to them
– Do empower them with the right information
– Do have your child explain what they already know about s*x
– Do provide loving interactions with them so they know you are there for support
– Do monitor their social exposure and who they hang out with
Children ages 0 to 3 will begin exploring their bodies. Do not call their private parts by anything other than the actual name. Don’t make your children feel shameful about exploring either. It is a natural process when growing up. Children are naturally curious.
Children ages 4 to 5 will start to ask questions about how babies come to be. They may also start to ask questions about s*x.
Children ages 6 to 8 should be spoken to about puberty and what they are about to go through. Do not avoid conversations about s*x with them either. It may be uncomfortable for you but it will help them in the long run.
Children ages 9 to 11 will start to develop romantic feelings for other people. You should not criticize them or tease them about these feelings. You don’t want to make them uncomfortable about it. Continue to speak with your children about s*xual interc0urse.
Children age 12 to 14 need to understand the changes that are going on with their bodies and need to be given a healthy self-image. They also need to know that you are going to be there for them to talk about s*x if they need to.