By: Krystle Crossman
You know that the day will come when your child decides that it is time for them to start talking back to you. While their flip and sassy comments can make your blood boil there are some important steps you should take to make sure that this does not become a habit and that they don’t get out of control.
First you will need to stay calm and not flip out on them. You also do not want to be too calm because then they will not see a consequence to this action and will continue to do it. When they decide to talk back there may be a deeper meaning behind it so don’t fly off the handle right away. Tell them that the both of you are going to go into separate rooms for a little while so that you can calm down and then talk about things rationally. Don’t give them too much space or too much leniency because they will take that as a sign that this behavior is something that they won’t be reprimanded for.
Sometimes kids are just talking back because they are frustrated with something that you have done to them. Sometimes there is a deeper cause that is making them behave this way, but you will need to ask in order to understand what is going on. They may be stressed about a situation at school or are frustrated with their homework. If you are the first one that they see they are going to take out that stress on you. Try to help them figure out what the problem is before things get too heated.
Once they have completed their sassy back talk you need to sit them down and explain what is acceptable behavior when lashing out about something and what is not. Sometimes children do not understand that what they are saying is unacceptable because they hear someone else say it and they are merely copying them. Make sure they know when they have said something that they should not be repeating.
You should also make sure that you follow through on the consequences so that they know that what they have done is not acceptable behavior. Make your expectations of them clear and make sure they understand that should they talk back again the punishment will be carried out. If they speak politely and kindly praise them for it so they will continue with that behavior.