By: Krystle Crossman
Home-schooling can be great for your family but can be really tough on your marriage. If you are not careful it could even ruin it. One of the biggest commitments that you can make in life other than marriage is home-schooling because it is a 24/7 job. Your kids are always learning and as their teacher you must always be around for their questions. Once the school hours for the day are done there is a lot of housework and errands to be done which doesn’t leave much time for you and your spouse to spend some time alone together.
Home-schooling may be especially hard on couples where one of the partners is not as excited about teaching the kids at home as the other. They may begin to resent you and feel neglected because you are spending so much time teaching the kids and then getting things done that you couldn’t do during the day. Your spouse may also feel jealous that you are taking the kids to the zoo for an educational field trip and they have to work. It makes it seem like you have the easy job of staying home all day and playing with the kids while they work. This of course is not the case as home-schooling is very labor intensive and is also very stressful, but the resentment and jealousy can build up and over time create a rift between you and your spouse.
Financial worries can also add to the stress on your marriage. If one partner is out of work to home-school, there is only one income for the house which often times is too close to living paycheck to paycheck. There are no health benefits or 401ks with home-schooling. Your spouse will be working extra in order to cover the cost of the bills that you aren’t bringing money in for at the time. Money problems are often a sore spot in any marriage, but with home-school couples it is a little worse. Figure out a plan of action while you home-school so that you can budget effectively and take some of the stress off of your spouse. Home-schooling materials do cost a lot of money so that needs to be factored in as well.
Socialization pretty much goes out the window for the parents when home-schooling as there is never any time to get out by yourselves. All of these things can lead to resentment from the other partner. To make sure that your marriage stays strong you need to keep open communication with each other and you will also have to ignore those who look down on you for home-schooling (which sadly many still do).