By Nigel Boys
According to Bridget Bentz Sizer, a blogger for PBS Parents, there are other ways to make your child behave themselves, other than screaming at them, bribing them with something they want or punishing them physically, that will work well for both parties concerned.
Here are a few ways to ease the tension between yourself and your child that will not result in a battle of wills:
1. Know why your child is misbehaving in the first place.
According to Naomi Aldort, author of “Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves,” there is always a reason for a child’s misbehavior and parents should realize that the child may not be doing wrong in their own eyes, but only doing what they think is correct.
Aldort goes on to say that children who are violent with others, may be craving attention, but don’t know how to get it any other way. She adds that parents should also examine themselves to see if they are demanding too much of their children at a young age.
2. Set a good example for your child to follow.
According to Dr. Katharine Kersey, parents should never yell at their child if they don’t want that child to start yelling back, because whatever behavior a parent shows their child, the child will soon start to imitate. She adds that you should be careful what you say or do, and if you feel like exploding at your child, try counting to ten before you decide how to handle the situation.
3. Don’t allow your child to get away with unacceptable behavior thinking they won’t do it again.
According to Aldort, children sometimes test your rules to see how far they can get away with things, but if you allow this to happen, the situation will only get worse. The author suggests that if your child refuses to play nice with other children, remove them from other children for a while to teach them that you will not tolerate that kind of behavior.
4. Never bribe your child into behaving.
According to Jim Fay, founder of the Love and Logic Institute, rewarding a child for not misbehaving by giving them something physical, will lead to that child wanting rewards for everything they do.
He adds the best way to reward a child is to spend more individual time with them, demonstrating to them that you love them very much.