By: Krystle Crossman
We all want the best for our children when they are at school. When your child is bullied you try to do everything that you can to make sure that it stops and that the bullies are punished. But what do you do when it turns out that your child is the one bullying others? How can you effectively teach them that this is not okay and that they are hurting others more than they realize?
– First you need to find out what happened from your child. Get their side of the story and listen to them. They may try to place the blame on the other person but let them know that you are not interested in hearing about the other kids. You want to know about their behavior and what they were doing at the time of the incident.
– After you have heard what they had to say, try to show them the other side of the story. Ask them how they would feel if they were treated the same way that they treated the person that they were bullying. Would they like it? Would it hurt their feelings?
– Make sure that your child apologizes. They need to take responsibility for their actions and realize that what they have done is wrong. Make sure they do what they can to make things right with their victim.
– Try to figure out why your child is lashing out. Just because they are bullying someone doesn’t mean that they are a bad child. It may be a cry for attention. They may be upset about something but don’t want to tell anyone about it. There may be some underlying issues or peer pressure at school.
– Talk to the school and get them involved. You cannot hover over your child at all times so make sure that the school is aware of the situation.
– Be a role model for your child. Treat others with kindness. Show your child that being nice to others is a great thing. If you see someone being bullied, stand up for them.