By: Krystle Crossman
Sharing is something that we are taught to do when we are little because it is the polite thing to do. One mother however does not agree with this and teaches her children that they don’t have to share. Mother Beth W explains this as people are often confused by this and feel that she is doing something wrong.
She tells a story of how her friend and the friend’s two year old went to a park to play. The toddler brought along his favorite toy. While they were at the park another child decided that they wanted to play with said toy. The child demanded that the toddler fork over his toy so that he could play with it. The two got into an argument as children do at times. The mother of the older boy that wanted to play with the small car said that apparently the toddler’s mother did not teach him how to share properly. Why should she teach him to share with strangers? A polite “no” should be sufficient and the other child should respect that and walk away.
Another story that she told was of how she brought her own child to a play gym that had a ton of toys to play with including those Little Tykes cars that the kids can ride around in. She watched as her son took one of the red cars which was his favorite. She watched him happily ride around in it. Then she watched another child’s mother continuously approach her son and tell him that it was her child’s turn on the car. Why did she allow her son to keep riding the car instead of making him share with the other little boy? Because there were a dozen other cars that were not being used and one that was almost identical to the one her son was on at the moment.
Beth said that her son was enrolled in a parent co-op school. They made their own rules and guidelines for the children in the school. One of these guidelines was that if a child was playing with a toy the other children had to wait until they were done playing with it if they wanted to use it. The toy would be held for the child in case they had to go to the bathroom or went to lunch so that no one else could use it. Although so many of us have grown up with the notion that sharing is just something that you are supposed to do, Beth argues that this is not the way to go. She says that by allowing them to take a toy that another child is still playing with is implanting the idea that they will get whatever they want when they ask for it which we all know is not real life.