By: Krystle Crossman
Bullies are everywhere. They can be young, they can be old, they can be any race, size, or gender. Four-year-old Siajh “Cici” Chase had to deal with a bully in her pre-kindergarten class and she dealt with it in the best way possible. The Nassau resident went to school like she did every other day. She came home telling her mother that a boy in her class said that she looked “ugly” that day.
Most of the time when someone is called ugly they will retaliate or become defensive. They may sling harsh words back at the person who is bullying them. This was not Cici’s style. She looked straight at the boy and told him that she was not at school to make a fashion statement, she was there to learn. Imagine the look on his face when she said that? He then told her that she didn’t look pretty again and she asked him if he had looked in a mirror lately and then dismissed herself. Seems like this four-year-old has her head on straight! Her mother said that she has always been smart and has a way with words.
This is one of the best ways to deal with a bully. Do not give in to them. Let them know that you aren’t bothered by what they are saying. It can be hard not to be bothered by it, especially when they attack the things that you are the most insecure about. The more you react the more fun they have with picking on you. I learned this lesson the hard way when I was in middle school. I have PCOS and dealt with weight gain early on in my life. I wasn’t thin, I had glasses, I liked school. This made me a very easy target for bullies. I was tortured to the point where I wanted to drop out of school in the sixth grade. I hated my life, I hated the people that were teasing me, and I hated the school for not doing anything about it. I continued to react when they called me fat or asked if I was pregnant. One girl told me that I was going to die alone because I was so hideous that no one would ever love me so I may as well kill myself now and get it over with. I never got to the point where I even thought about suicide. Unfortunately there have been so many teens that not only have thought about it but have committed suicide because of bullies.
There are anti-bullying laws in most states but nothing is usually done when a child says that they are being bullied. In my case they felt that it was a good idea to put myself, my tormentors, and the guidance counselor in a conference room to “talk it out”. Obviously this was one of the most horrible things to do because I was then called a fat snitch. The bullying never stopped, even through high school. There are many things that I wish I could do in life now but do not have the confidence to do and probably never will unless I drop serious weight. I am always going to feel like people are talking about me behind my back and making fun of me for my weight. Schools need to do more to stop this from happening to their students. It is a good idea for parents to teach their kids about how to deal with bullies as well. Cici seems to have grown up with the right values. She didn’t let the bully control her or what she thought of herself and she diffused the situation in a non-violent way.