By: Krystle Crossman
It is a fact of life that children get angry from time to time. They may not get the toy that they want in the store or you may tell them to do something that they don’t want to do like clean their room. Anger in and of itself is not a bad thing but the way that your child deals with the anger may be something that you need to take care of. If your child sits and sulks or stomps off to their room to stew, let them. If they begin to become aggressive and destructive it is time to sit them down and deal with their anger with them so that they can learn how to control it.
1. Setting an example – Adults get angry too and our children see how we deal with that anger. If you tend to throw things, break things, or curse while you are angry your children will pick up on it. They will think that this is the way that you deal with being mad. Set an example by taking a deep breath when you are mad and talking it out instead of throwing a tantrum. This will show your children that there are other ways to deal with anger that aren’t so destructive.
2. Talking – Sitting down and talking with your child can diffuse a situation very quickly. They will feel as though their emotions matter to you and will be comfortable talking things out. Sit with them in a quiet room and listen to them when they are telling you why they are angry. If they choose to sit in silence explain to them why their reactions can have a big impact and how they can best handle their anger.
3. Praise – When your child does something that shows good behavior, praise them for it. If they handle a situation where they are angry but they deal with it in a positive way make sure they know that was the right thing to do.
4. Comfort – When your little one is upset they need to be comforted. Give them plenty of hugs or rub their back. Let them know that you are here for them and that you love them. This will cut down on their anger and they will settle down much quicker.
5. Work it out – When all else fails give them a physical activity to do that will help them to vent. Let them punch a pillow for a while or stomp around outside. Give them some clay or playdough that they can mash around.