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Woman Raised By Lesbians: “It hurt; I ached everyday for a dad”

By Victor Trammell

Photo credits: ABC News/Univision/

The vast prevalence of LGBT people in America and the growing strength of the political and social advocacy of their lifestyle is, unfortunately, a divisive reality among the national citizenry.

In recent history, the legalization of gay and lesbian marriages in a number of U.S. states, as well as the issue of transgender bathrooms in public schools are issues that have been widespread topics of discussion. However, these are just two aspects of an augmenting story in America about a social issue that has become absolutely ubiquitous.

On the other side of this debate, there are people who feel as though the traditional family lifestyle between a married man, woman, and child is under attack. Evangelical ministers, social commentators, and even some politicians have used their rhetoric to come to the rescue of those who feel isolated by the inalienable power of the LGBT community.

Those who are defenders of the gay and lesbian marriage issue will tell you that children being raised by two men or two women who are bonded through holy matrimony is an ideal domestic situation. These households scenarios have been normalized by today’s society regardless of what people have held dear to in the past.

However, CNS News (a nationally-renowned independent media source) once published a report about a woman named Heather Barwick. This report was centered around Barwick’s emotionally detailed essay, which was published by a newspaper called The Federalist. In her essay, Barwick claims she was raised by a lesbian couple.

A portion of Barwick’s essay reads as follows:

“I grew up surrounded by women who said they didn’t need or want a man. Yet, as a little girl, I so desperately wanted a daddy. It is a strange and confusing thing to walk around with this deep-down unquenchable ache for a father, for a man, in a community that says that men are unnecessary.”

Further elaboration on Barwick’s childhood story can be read by visiting the the research source link for this article, which is provided below.

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4 thoughts on “Woman Raised By Lesbians: “It hurt; I ached everyday for a dad”

  1. Amy Carpenter

    Whoops, I didn’t realize this was an anti-gay site. I am concerned for LGBTQ Black children who will be harmed by this messaging – I know of those who have grown up even more marginalized and oppressed through no fault of their own, but because they are both Black and Queer. I hope you can find a way to reconcile with and build connections with the LGBTQ community. I’m sorry that I won’t be able to share The Black Homeschool as a resource with families anymore.

  2. Kimberlie

    This is such bullsh*t!!! I had a “traditional” family, mother and father. My father died when I was 10. I am almost 50 and I still ache for my father. My mother wasn’t gay. So, what the hell does having gay parents have to do with anything? What about all of the kids who are brought up by single, straight women and the guy ran out on them as soon as he heard the words “I’m pregnant”? This has been going on for decades upon decades. So, do u think those kids are aching for a dad? No. According to this dumbass article, kids aching for a dad syndrome is a new thing that only belongs to kids of lesbian parents. smh. One of THE dumbest articles I have seen in a while. And no. I’m not gay and neither were my parents. I just recognize stupidity quickly. Whomever wrote this article needs to get objectivity, common sense and their head out of their ass.

  3. Miss Prosperity

    Lol this article is a crock of crap. So the experience of one woman represents all women raised by lesbians? This is the most ridiculous article I have read in a while. It’s very bias and homophobic.

    There is no traditional household anymore. For long time children have been raised in various kinds of households and if either of their parents are absent or gone it creates a void.

    The sexual orientation of the individuals raising that child has little to nothing to do with the voids a child experiences when they feel they are missing something that is broadcasted to be normal.

  4. Reggie Greene

    No matter how you look at it, the lack of balance can be damaging to a child. Whether one parent ran off, or you are dealing with same sex parents. Every child needs that masculine and feminine blance. When one is missing there will be a void.


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